Okay to “Not Know”

Our children look to us as if we are infallible. And, for us, at times it is tough to live up to that … Also, for them, it is tough to follow the act. Thus, I encourage the truth-curiosity consequences game outlined here!

First, it is okay to say “I don’t know” when asked a question. Especially if you don’t know! That would be TRUTH. Now, explore various answers … CONSEQUENSES of not knowing and being CURIOUS.

Turn to your child and ask “what do you think?” Enjoy the answer (and it might take some patient probing). Not only will you inspire your child to think, to consider, to reason … you will enjoy the precious interaction!

Acknowledge your child’s perspective. Reiterate to confirm that you understand. Then give them a compliment or support – consider “good question” or, “interesting way to see it” or,“ you have a great sense of wit! (if laughter and silliness are part of the exchange)” etcetera.

And in the exchange, remember to communicate that curiosity is one of the joys of learning and growing. When appropriate, find reference material and learn something together (search books, ask others, surf the internet … among the possibilities).

Your child will learn that you are wise, even though you don’t know it all. This brings you respect for honesty and ingenuity. And it gives your child a sense of confidence and strength.

More on this to come … including the need to abolish “because I said so” from our vocabulary! And, send in your ideas, questions, experiences to share with others in an effort to expand the collective consciousness of LIVING IN PEACE.

In Lovingkindness,
Tamara